When your love is insecure


How to help your partner who is insecure There are challenges to loving someone who doesn’t love herself very much. Not in that they are hard to love. That part is easy. When you love someone, you love them. You see…

Three reasons you think he doesn’t love you


Relationships take work to sustain. There are ups and downs. The ups sail along nicely. But the downs? They can really kick you in the butt. Any sign of trouble* can raise your insecurity to a devastating level. Or… sometimes it…

Love up instead of worrying down


This saves lives. Believe me. Especially yours. Love people up instead of worrying down.  We are human. And we love people. When we see people suffering, it triggers our mirror neurons to feel that suffering, too. There is something to…

Love On The Rocks


This summer I spent some time with my dearest loves. Rocks. You know I love plants, but did you know that rocks are very close second? I made a commitment earlier this summer to lie on the ground three times a…

How Do I Love Thee, Let Me Count The Ways


1. Make time for yourself to lie down and connect with the earth. Whether I can be outside or not, lying down supine on the earth is my favorite position to forgive.  To let everything go, I just imagine it…

Lovely Signs That We Are Not Alone


In supervision today, I was telling my supervisee about how people who are hurting sometimes isolate themselves. A man described it to me last week as standing outside looking in the window of a house where a party is going…

Making Love Your Mission


I spent the past weekend at Omega Institute assisting a workshop with the spunky Barbara Marx Hubbard and the energizing John Perkins called After 2012: Manifesting Change: Rebirthing Self And Community. Barbara has boundless energy. I loved walking her around the…

The Search For Self Love


  The search for self love begins when you let go of trying so hard to be perfect. When you let go of one expectation that has been more of a prison than a goal, the first step in your…

What Do You Love?


Today I want to share one of my greatest loves. (Besides my readers, of course!) Plants! If I wasn’t a social worker, I would definitely do something with plants for my day job. For someone who works long lovely days…

When Someone You Love Is In Pain


When someone you love is in pain, you look for ways to be helpful. When we love someone so much, it seems harder to see them hurting than to feel hurt ourselves. I find this especially true with my children….