A Wolf By Any Other Name, Is Still a Wolf…18 comments
A Wolf By Any Other Name, Is Still a Wolf…
You’ll notice that in this new blog design debuted today, I use my full name, Jodi Lobozzo Aman. I took my maiden name of Lobozzo after I was married as my legal middle name, but until now it has only shown up in print on Facebook.
Recently, I have felt the strong urge to re-identify myself with my maiden name as I mature and am more and more eager to connect to my Italian roots. However, I strongly relate to the name Aman, too, and all it means on many levels. Jodi Lobozzo Aman describes me in a way that neither Jodi Lobozzo, nor Jodi Aman can.
As a feminist, I initially thought of keeping my maiden name when I was married. But at the last minute, just before my wedding, I decided to take Ted’s family’s surname for my own. The decision was oddly made when I was signing my traveler’s checks for my honeymoon. Remember traveler’s checks? You have to sign your name 50 times before leaving the bank. Lobozzo felt long and cumbersome to sign.
Rubbing my sore hand, I also thought how my maiden name just represented my father anyway. Patriarchy both ways: husband or father. What is the difference, really? As a young woman, wanting my own identity, neither felt empowering.
However, both names meant more to me than these two men. They meant a history of family and ancestry; they meant love and struggle, and human endurance. These meanings were/are incredibly empowering.
The Aman family means so much to me. To me, they represent peace, love, and solid relationships. Everything I could want in a family. But to have a name literally saying, “A” “man” furrowed my brow.
The meaning of names always peaked my curiosity. When I meet new people, I am intrigued with where their names come from. When I look from this perspective, Aman, is very interesting and I embrace it.
The English, and Irish would use Eamon (pronounced the same) meaning to “guard the riches” not “a” “man.” However, my nephew did some research online a few years ago and discovered the name “Aman” for our family originated in France. The Latin root of Aman is of course “loving” (amo) which probably comes from “Amma” meaning “mother.” Getting more interesting…
Often when hearing my name before meeting me, many people assume “Aman” is from the Middle East. These meanings are my favorite. Aman in Farsi means “sanctuary” or “refuge.” It mean “trustworthy” and “safety” in Arab and “peace” in Hindi.
I love identifying myself with these meanings.
Lobozzo, too, is loaded with meaning. My paternal grandfather told me the name meant “Lobo Solo: The lonely wolf.” This wolf has become a symbol of my path in the last few years, always “showing up” when I need some guidance.
And “Lobozzo” represents my Italian heritage, which having spend so much time with my grandparents has become an important legacy. Italians are very loving and passionate. Family is hugely important. My grandmother used to say, “As long as we are together, everything will be OK.”
Names are literally how we are identified. I love having both the energy of Lobozzo and Aman around me.
What is your name and what does it mean?
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