Cord Disconnection4 comments
Often there is someone in our lives that haven’t always lifted us up (i.e., the ex, a dismissive teacher, a bully). In fact, many times this person contributed to negative understandings, and negative self identities about ourselves (i.e., I am unlovable, I am not enough). Their voices in our head keep us oppressed by these beliefs, and often stuck in shame and fear.
What is interesting is that we often wish for and/or seek acknowledgment from this person to confirm our worth. Seems ludicrous?
We all do it. We think: “I’ll feel better, if he acknowledges me.” Or “If they understood, things would be different.” Why do we remain connected to their influence? If it is someone from our past, why do we let them continue to influence us or make us feel bad? It is like we have some energetic cords holding us to this other person, invisible they hold lots of power.
And often this person is in our present. I meet with many people who are trying to end romantic relationships that they know are not good for them. They feel the energetic connection and sometimes mistake its significance. They see multiples sides of the person, since at one point there may have been a uplifting part – even if they haven’t seen this part in a long time. And, they long so much for that uplifting part, that they can’t set limits on the degrading or disrespecting part. They know they should move on from this person, but they feel this unseen connection and stay, desperately unhappy.
Disconnect those energetic cords that tether you to these beliefs and thoughts about yourself. If you feel like this to any degree about anyone, Day 12’s guided meditation is for you!
Jodi Aman / /