How Do I Love Thee, Let Me Count The Ways16 comments
How do I love thee, let me count the ways
1. Make time for yourself to lie down and connect with the earth
Whether I can be outside or not, lying down supine on the earth is my favorite position to forgive. To let everything go, I just imagine it falling into the earth. If I feel something stuck in my gut or heart, I breathe into it, until I can imagine it letting go also. I don’t try to make meaning out of it, or figure it out, or berate myself. I don’t get into any blame games in my head.
For the moment, I practice suspending the story. I say “practice” because it doesn’t have to be perfect and I am always far from perfect with it. I tend to be gentle with myself. The more I am struggling to get out of my head, the more gentler I become.
I imagine it loosening up and melting into the earth. I feel weightless and let myself fall into the earth, too. Usually, I imagine the earth cleansing me.
2. Be even more gentle
In my metaphor of what is happening, I am not a bottomless pit, (even though I feel like one sometimes.) If I still feel tense after a while of letting go, I get curious if there is some judgment filling me back up. I try to be ever more compassionate and understanding of myself. I don’t connect this with the story, because that would invite more mind involvement. I don’t try to figure out what the judgment is. I just in general feel love for myself and this lets it go without me having to “try” or anything.
3. Let go of “excuses” to stay suffering
Many excuses to stay suffering seem very logical at the time. Some of our biggest obstacles to feeling peace are wrapped in admirable packaging. Here are some words I am talking about:
Figure it out
Don’t let these fool you. They are the goons of Judgment couched in some “upstanding” words. When they are working for Judgment, their job is to confuse us. And they can be very crafty at it.
I am supposed to accept this, but I can’t accept this…
(Add supposed to.)
How do you accept something, you can’t accept?
I try to forget accepting, resolving, expecting, and just let myself be in the breathe. There is nothing to figure out. I image light all around myself and just float there with out any story.
4. Practice Self Compassion
I meet judgment with compassion. And it dissolves. (Not forever. When judgment comes back, if I am aware, I gently remind myself that I love myself). If we suspended judgment, then we would have nothing else to do. Judgment keeps us attached to things we don’t want to be attached to.
If we try really hard to let something go- sometimes we can feel worse-this is because judgment is attaching us to it ever more strongly. Stop judging and there is nothing to do to let it go, it goes by itself. Peace is ours. If we practiced self compassion, the rest could be simple to see.
5. If guilt is there use it
Guilt comes in order to give us awareness into our actions so we can choose something different or restore what we have done, etc. Most times we hold guilt, when our sense of self worth is low, even though we have done nothing wrong. Forgiving yourself for thinking you have done something wrong is key to finding peace.
If you have done something wrong, the guilt shows up to help us take action. Once you decide on that action and commit to it, the guilt is useless and will potentially hurt you, by isolating you or keeping your stuck. Nobody wins. You may feel like you deserve this but I am not sure.
I’d rather spend my energy giving back, making up for it, and contributing/connecting to someone else. Everybody wins. This feels so much better than being stuck in guilt.
6. Ask your inner God/Goddess who you are
Once I dissolve my sticky story, I want to fill myself back up and so I imagine light all around me. I ask myself: What does God/Goddess appreciate about you? I let Spirit answer this by stepping back in my mind. Something different is revealed each time.
I ask to see who I am in Spirit’s eyes and feel myself filled up with light. I continue to float in this light until I am ready to get up. Refreshed and renewed!
7. Do something for yourself
Take a walk, take a bath, call a friend, read something inspirational, sing, dance, love…
Jodi Aman / /