Six Easy and Simple Habits To Keep Your Life In Balance

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the amount of tasks calling you at the start of every day? Like even making a dent is monumentally daunting?  You either throw your hands up, immobilized, or run yourself ragged trying to keep up?

I’ve been there. Uttering to myself, “There is not enough time, there is not enough time…” as I spill my tea all over my work clothes as I am walking out the door. I was flustered and frustrated and  this made it all worse. Who has time for that?

Inevitably when I got into time-deficit mentality, I’d  feel even powerless. Can you relate?

 

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Thankfully, the radiant Betsy Henry from Zen Mama is here today to give six easy and simple habits that can help us stop stressing and start being. Becky is both a go-getter and a calm instigator. When she realized her life was too hectic, she stopped and listened to her heart, beginning a shift that so many of us long for in our life–being more Zen. Without further ado, here she is…

Six Easy and Simple Habits To Keep Your Life In Balance 

By Betsy Henry

 

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When I’m not being a Zen Mama, I’m a preschool teacher. I love my job. Usually I have two classes but for one year I am working full time and have 56, 3-5 years at various times during the week. It’s such a rewarding job. I look forward every year to the new crop of faces, familiar and new. I learn so much from them. The kids keep me laughing and happy as we learn, sing and play throughout the school year.

A teacher can be pretty exhausted every afternoon after this energy. Since I knew how busy I’d be this year, I asked myself this question: “How can I create a balanced life?”

What does being balanced mean to me? It means not rushing, feeling grounded, calm and peaceful, and best of all, excited for my day and for just being alive. It’s feeling awake, mindful, receptive and wise. We all have glimpses of balance in life but not usually on a daily basis. What if you could have this feeling nearly everyday?

We all have the days that don’t go that smoothly. You’ve overslept, stuff down some breakfast, put your coffee in a go-cup and barely make it to work on time. The whole day is often a mess after a start like that. Maybe having a day like this is part of the balance, too. You can appreciate the better days when you have one that’s not quite right.

6 Must Daily Habits

Here are 6 simple and easy habits I try to do everyday to keep my life in balance.

1. Have a positive attitude. Laugh and smile as much as possible.

2. Breathe. Andrew Weil has a great breathing technique called 4-7-8 that I got to learn from him in person. It helps me to relax and even go back to sleep in the middle of the night. (Video of this technique is at the bottom!)

3. Get up early in the morning. This way, I never feel rushed on my way to work. The un-rushed feeling lasts all day.

4. Have a relaxing meal at night. I love to eat dinner at night with my family. I know this can’t happen every night. Tonight I’m eating alone and enjoying my meal slowly and getting inspiration to write this post.

5. Exercise. A walk or a bike ride is usually possible as part of my everyday exercise.

6. I have a good mix of work, play and learning throughout my day.

I know that life takes over sometimes. Work, kid’s sporting events, an evening out, family obligations, stress over any amount of things can seep into your day. And sometimes you need to experience some sorrow to completely understand and know the joy in life. So if you find yourself getting too busy, try these simple tips. You’ll keep balance in your day to day life, be amazed and how much easier everything else will be.

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony. “~Thomas Merton

betsy henry zen mamaBetsy Henry is a teacher, mother, wife and also the author of HOW TO BE A ZEN MAMA, the ZEN MAMA’S BOOK OF QUOTES and ZEN TIPS.  Her motto for parenting and life is “Let Go, Get Closer”.  Come read more at Zen-Mama.com 

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You can do them, too!

Wow! Betsy is awesome!

She has her priorities straight! And she is also flexible. There is little negotiation in the important things, keeping her “balanced.” Yet, she has no expectations for her time, so she’ll experience less frustration. Brilliant!

I can relate! It was only once I understood this balance, my relationship with time changed.

I began to say: “There is more than enough time for everything I want to do.”

I acknowledged the way I filled my time was my choice. Knowing it was my prerogative how I spent my minutes empowered me. I felt less of a victim of not having enough time. I was no longer impotent against the tide of the clock.

Also, I worried less about getting everything done. Letting go of worry does not mean laziness and unproductivity. I can personally vouch for increased productivity and an happier disposition! Whatever gets done, gets done, and it is NEVER everything. So why stress?

Worrying takes tons of effort and energy!  If we dread a task for a few hours, or a few days, before getting started on it, it’s like doing it many times instead of just once. If we enjoy what we had to do, make tedious tasks fun or interesting,  we would be much less exhausted when we are done. Then we would have energy to add some fun things in!

I understood my limits and respected them. To quote Betsy, “You can do it, too!”

Jodi xo

Wouldn’t that be great?  How do you take care of yourself when things get hairy? 

 

 

 


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14 Comments

Betsy

Thanks for having me as a guest poster Jodi! So glad to be part of your blog!
I also say something similar to myself that you reminded me of! I once read that Deepak Chopra says, “This day will last forever.” I now say that on particularly busy days, too.
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Harleena Singh

Hi Jodi,

Oh yes! Betsy is surely awesome and I think her habits to keep life’s balance is pretty good. Wish we all could do the same – we can actually if we put our heart and mind into it 🙂

Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day ahead 🙂

Kelly Hashway

I use the breathing technique I learned while I was pregnant (hypnobirthing) all the time to relax. It really helps.
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Tina Fariss Barbour

These are wonderful tips! Thank you for sharing them, Betsy and Jodi. I am working on getting up earlier, because I feel so much less stressed the rest of the day when I do. I tend to get caught up in worry over not getting everything done. It’s good to be reminded that I don’t have to get EVERYthing done that I think I do. 🙂
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Marie

Thanks for these fabulous tips Ladies, simple and easy to put into practice.
Breathing is a great help for me when things don’t go according to plans. At the same time, we have to accept we don’t have to be perfect all the time and if something does not get done, it’s not the end of the world!!!

mj monaghan

I’m a firm believer in deep breathing – it helps so much with stress, getting your heart rate back in line, and slowing breathing down to really relax.

It’s interesting – I have a stressful job with long hours. I would like to exercise, but with my job it’s difficult. I have to get up at a very early hour (think ridiculously early :))and get home late as well. Looking forward to getting more comfortable with the job and reducing the length of the day some in the future. I’m optimistic.
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Des

Great!, Love love your post. Thanks for sharing this great post. Keep posting. Looking forward to read more. Excellent.

Lisa H.

The words that stuck out to me on this were easy, simple and balance. That’s exactly what I’m looking for right now. What I’ve found is when things become hard and complicated, I’m not in balance. I loved your description of what balance is and I feel similar.

It means not rushing, but feeling grounded, calm and peaceful, and best of all, excited for my day and for just being alive. 🙂
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totsymae1011

I feel overwhelmed and thinking about being overwhelmed makes it all even more overwhelming. Working on de-stressing though.
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Laura Zera

Ha, the 4-7-8 breathing technique made me a little light-headed at first… wheeeeee! And speaking of time and one’s relationship to it, have I ever mentioned a fantastic clip by Danielle LaPorte? It’s called Sovereigns of Time, and it was downloadable from her website (not sure if it still is). I’ve listened to it at least eight times and different things stick with me from each listen.
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Mary

Yes Jodi, I can relate. Betsy I am so jealous that you got to meet Andrew Weil in person! I love him! That must have been quite an experience! He is very wise, so are you!

monicastangledweb

Good solid tips. I stay above the fray by keeping to-do lists. I love the feeling of crossing something off my list once I’ve completed it. Makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something! Woo-hoo!
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Goldie

Thanks Jodi, for all that you give.

Jodi Aman

Thanks Goldie, Do wish you can get away and join us in April! xo


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