Who Is In Your Corner, And How Do You Keep Them There?59 comments
Last weekend, a strange thing happened when I drove on the throughway toward Syracuse. I was just driving along minding my own business, listening to my book on CD, and I looked up just in time to see the 329th mile marker.
This strange phenomena happens almost EVERY time I make this drive. (In both directions!) 3/29 is my birthday. It is curious that I would never notice any other ones, but always look up just in time for this one.
It surprises me, because I make the drive so infrequently that I forget to anticipate it.
But, then again, I’m not really surprised.
For me, this has been a sign that my grandmother is watching over me. It began to happen as I traveled frequently to visit her when she was dying. And then it has happened consistently since then.
It always seems to happen when I need it…When I need to feel like someone is in my corner, that someone is with me, and that I am OK. For me, it is confirmation that I am on the right track in my journey.
Like other signs that remind me who I am and who is with me, when I see it, I feel relieved and grateful. Grandma was winking at me, acknowledging my work on the retreat last weekend. It was like a nod of approval. It made me feel warm and happy.
Who is in your corner?
If you look and listen, you find signs everywhere that help guide you through life. Signs that tell you everything is going to be OK. Signs that show you the right decision to make, (or let you know what not to chose). Signs that tell you that you are not alone in these decisions. In fact, you are not alone in life. Ever.
Some people call these skills in observation and others call this intuition. When we are not “in touch,” these may go unnoticed or worse bring a flood of self doubt. The good news is that we can build skills in understanding and trusting these signs by trying to pay attention to them. We can be “in touch” on purpose.
Try this: Ask your body to show you a “yes.” For me I get an upward swishy motion in my head. Then ask you body what a “no” is. I get a downward swishy feeling in my head, but you might have tightness in your abdomen, or you might feel a strong repulsion. You get the idea.
Now you can double check the signs you meet. When you hear a morning dove and you think, “That’s my mom.” Ask yourself if it is, and look for your “no” or “yes” signal.
Signs are so ephemeral that they can seem like our imagination. In fact, where do you think our imagination comes from?
They are our imagination. But remember…
“Imagination is the womb of a new reality.” Marianne Williamson.
Who is in my corner?
A deer used to help me remember to breathe. When I was walking around town and saw a deer painted on the side of a video game, I would consciously let my worries go and took a deep breath. A wolf helps me to feel supported. If I need this message, I might see a statue of a wolf in a shop window. Or when I get down on myself, someone just so happens to encourage me at the right moment. I might dream about a friend and them decide to call her up to check in.
When I am aware and grateful for the signs, I find they happen more often.
They help us create a new us and a new world, because they guide our next steps and our actions. And when we become open to them, we will see them and understand them more and more. We will feel more connected and less alone. We trust what we are doing and step into it with less fear in our hearts.
My grandmother was helping me and I definitely felt less afraid.
Over to you.
Have you ever gotten signs that helped you make a decision? Or let you know you were on the right track? Who was helping you and how did they?
Jodi Aman / /