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Why women need women
In the 1.3 billion year history since Homo Erectus walked the earth, we have only lived predominantly in single family homes for less than 100 years. That’s a drop in the ocean.
For millions and millions of years our brains, cells, emotions and souls have been living, cooking, child rearing, collecting, creating, eating, playing, and sharing in community around a fire of other women. (Okay, the fire was only 790,000 years ago.) The point is, we evolved in community, sharing time and experience with other women.
It takes a village to raise a woman.
Together we bloom. In isolation, we wither.
The Five Senses
Being seen through the eyes of another woman helps us see ourselves unbiased of our negative self-talk. Being seen helps us feel worthy and lovable.
Women evolved to see with their peripheral vision in order to scan the forest for food and medicine while they walked along. Our brains have been developed to see the big-picture view. We can see a need for comfort, see to protect one another from danger, see to appreciate each other’s creations. We can see beauty. We look for each other when one of us is lost.
Women can speak to each other through our eyes.
Women listen to each other. They allow their friends’ words to enter their hearts and hold it close.
Being listened to lifts us up, vitalizing us. Women don’t jump to fixing things. Instead, we validate how the other feels, until she feels whole.
We hear our babies cry, and comfort them. We listen with rapture when our children are telling us of their adventures. We listen to the wind and the whispers of the trees to tread softy. We listen to Spirit through our intuition.
Women cook and eat together. Our ancestors have tested medicines from the earth and discussed them around the fire. We make and give meals when someone is sick. Women tell each other that they are not fat. This Eating Disorder awareness week, we must show our daughter’s that they are beautiful just as they are! Just Like Louise from Dare Boldly. And help them have a healthier relationship with food than we have. Let them see food as nourishment and gifts from the earth, instead of as the enemy.
We smell our babies, and our food and the flowers that bloom out our windows. We smell our tea while we are chatting together and the food to make sure it is still fresh enough for our family.
Smell is our greatest memory.
Women feel deep empathy for each other. Our hearts break when our loved ones are in pain. We feel elated with our girlfriend’s achievements and celebrate good news together.
We feel our children’s heads when we worry they are warm. And cuddle them when they are distressed.
Women hugs feed our souls.
We feel deeply
And we allow ourselves to because we know we can handle it. We are strong women. We know that the depth of our feeling is the real richness of life. We don’t try to shy away from connection, especially when it is for the other person.
When we are in touch with our spirit we can express ourselves in so many ways – our food, our home, our classrooms, our craft space, the lullabies we sing, and stories we tell. And we create space for people to be exactly where they are, to express themselves fully in whatever way works for them. We create community, friendship, and family.
We know how to nurture. We hold other women when they are upset. We listen. We share. We honor each other’s feelings. When we tell a girlfriend how we feel, we find out that they have felt that way too. Then we feel “normal” and accepted and we judge ourselves a little less. We put things in perspective.
We stand up for what is right, and for those who cannot advocate for themselves. We stand with power but also with respect, honor and peace. We help each other get away from what can harm us. It takes a community to help someone that is in an abusive relationship. We let them know that they are noticed and help them find their way to healing. We help them feel filled up when they feel empty. It is impossible to heal in isolation. We are only a self in relationship, and so to heal, we must be in relationship.
Women point out each others’ blind spots.
In most families, women manage the social calendar. We plan the celebrations, the birthdays, the wedding showers, we offer to babysit, and we plan the meal delivery schedule to those who are sick or morning. We plan reunions, vacations, and holiday dinners. We call, we write, we say I miss you and I love you or I’m thinking of you. These are the things that build relationships and keep the world moving forward in a loving way. Love is ever expanding.
Women need women!
Over to you readers: Tell me your favorite story of a woman saving your life.
Jodi Aman / /