How many ways are there to heal? I guess it depends on who you ask. If you asked me, I would say,
“7, no, 5, no, probably 4, actually a million… but really, they are all one way.”
So there are a million different healing modalities, I hear about a new one at least every day. Each claim to be the answer. Some seem cockamamie, some intrigue me. But don’t people realize that they are variations of the same theme? There are (to me) obvious similarities in ones that work. They each include the concepts below. Try any of them you feel called to, but see if you can recognize these within.
7 Ways to Heal
There are the 7 chakras (energy vortexes) in the body, from the Hindu tradition, that can be cleared, which many people have asked me to write about and I will soon. They connect with where we hold beliefs about love, loss, fear, etc.
5 Ways to Heal
Here are 5 ways to heal, which I co-authored with a client last week. Here they are,
1. Feeling heard
Acknowledgment and validation is how we heal. See this Oprah video on validation. Remember, you are allowed to feel!
2. Be present
Living in the future gives us worry, living in the past gives us resentment. It is only in the present that we can connect with the divine part of ourselves. Here we can heal. Just be.
Humans are social creatures, belonging helps create a worthy identity. Feeling left out, isolated, or shunned injures our souls. (Even if we are doing it to ourselves.) That’s why bullying is so painful.
4. Helping others
Contributing to others lives also give us a sense of worth and belonging. If we help someone else, we feel a rush of warmth and happiness. We matter. It also helps us step outside of our selves, and view things from a new perspective.
Feeling separate is the root of all of our problems. Connecting to others usually relieves intense emotions, seclusion creates more fear and guilt. Being with others helps us get out of our own head.
(All of these give us a sense of worth. All of these include love.)
4 Ways to Heal
Here are 4 ways to heal, which is an idea I am developing, and encompasses everything else:
Opposite of blame, shame and guilt. Letting go of anger and resentment. Self forgiveness heals. This also encompasses non judgment.
Letting go of fear in all forms. (Anxiety, worry, desperation, worry, confusion, etc.) Being present. Knowing how you have control over your responses and that’s the most important control.
Again, the opposite of separation, but knowing our oneness with everything. The inclusiveness of everything. Where everything belongs.
Love is everything. It is the present moment.
I do recognize that all four of these things are actually the same. They are all love.
1 Way to Heal
Thanks Kim for this gem:And ”Again, to love. To be loved, to never forget your own insignificance,and also to never get used to the unspeakable violence and the vulgar disparity of life around you. Seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. Also, to never simplify what is complicated or complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never to forget.”—Arundhati Roy, The God of Small Things
How have you felt healing in your life? What am I missing?