When I was in grade school, I went to a memory improvement workshop. The leader taught us four important elements to improving memory skills. They are positive, present tense, repetition, and high emotion.
They are hard to write without yelling. The workshop presenter drove it home by having the entire auditorium yelling (high emotion) the four concepts over and over (repetition). “POSITIVE, PRESENT TENSE, REPETITION, HIGH EMOTION!” brings me right back into that room. It’s been almost 30 years.
“Don’t think of a purple elephant,” the speaker challenged us. Of course, we couldn’t not. We think in the positive tense. This was an invaluable lesson, I still heed today. I learned to give my children directions in the positive. Tell them what to do rather than what not to do. And I’ve taught them to ask for what they want instead of complaining-er, “am teaching” -we are still working on this! (But I am in good company with every other parent in the world.)
We remember things in the present tense, that’s why we feel so attached to our past, we have to consciously remind our self it is past. Because it feels like it is right now. Know what I mean?
Repeating affirmations or rereading therapeutic documents that refer to your new story of skills, knowledges, identities, and/or values helps us step into them and helps us sustain them. (i.e. Write a goodbye letter to your problem. And read it over and over.)
See, the anxious voices in our heads repeat themselves over and over. So the way to counter this is with repetition also.
I don’t have to convince anyone of this. We’ve all remembered certain experiences more vividly when our emotions have been high, whether the event was positive, negative or in between. If there is high emotion involved, we remember, both fortunately and unfortunately sometimes. (i.e. I like remembering the birth of my children.)
When I help my kids study for tests, I repeat the material in high, excited emotion. This really works!
How Positive, Present Tense, Repetition and High Emotion Can Help You
Counter these with positive, present tense, repetition, high emotion! Get excited about your affirmations. When they rock, you rock! Next week I will tell more about how to write affirmations and how they work.
Sending excited, happy love! Sending excited happy love! Sending excited happy love! Sending excited happy love!
30 years from now, it won’t matter what shoes you wore, how your hair looked or the jeans you bought. What will matter is what you learned and how you used it. ~Unknown
P.S. This is my 200 blog post! It has been a joy to write these all for you and I hope you continue to read and share if you are so inspired!