Six Ways to Promote Peace by Honoring Mothers


Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day! I am in awe of what mother’s mean: how they multitask, know their children, nurture, solve problems, ease pain with a kiss and a cuddle, and continually give from a bottomless pit of unconditional love.

And I can write a whole post about it, but instead I wanted to turn attention to the real reason for Mother’s Day: to promote peace.

Promoting Peace

Dalai Lama quote "If you want others to be happy.. practice compassion. If you want to be happy...practice compassion."

Mother’s day began when Mothers gathered together to stop war. In the US, it began during the Civil War with such generous spirits as Ann Jarvis and Julia Ward Howe. Their mission: to stop “Our children killing other mother’s children.”

Mother’s Day Proclamation by Julia Ward Howe, 1870

The First Mother’s Day proclaimed in 1870 by Julia Ward Howe
was a passionate demand for disarmament and peace.

Arise, then, women of this day! Arise, all women who have hearts, whether your baptism be that of water or tears!

Say firmly: “We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies. Our husbands shall not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have taught them of charity, mercy and patience. We women of one country will be too tender of those of another to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs.”

From the bosom of the devastated earth, a voice goes up with our own. It says, “Disarm, Disarm!”

The sword of murder is not the balance of justice. Blood not wipe out dishonor, nor violence indicate possession. As men have often forsaken the plow and the anvil at the summons of war, let women now leave all that may be left of home for a great and earnest day of counsel. Let them meet first, as women, to bewail & commemorate the dead. Let them solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means whereby the great human family can live in peace, each bearing after his own time the sacred impress, not of Caesars but of God.

In the name of womanhood and of humanity, I earnestly ask that a general congress of women without limit of nationality may be appointed and held at some place deemed most convenient and at the earliest period consistent with its objects, to promote the alliance of the different nationalities, the amicable settlement of international questions, the great and general interests of peace.

When Mother Theresa was accepting the Nobel Prize, someone asked her “What can we do to promote world peace?”  She answered, “Go home and love your family.”  It starts in our home, people. Let’s do this!

Six Ways to Promote Peace Starting Right in Your Home, Community

1. Say “I love you.”

People cannot hear this enough. I makes them feel worthy, connected.  This has the ability  lift them out of sadness and anger that might have had them being mean to someone else.

2. Forgive someone.

See them as more than their offense.  See yourself as more than what happened. Let go of resentment that just hurts you.

3. Hug someone.

Physical affection can be so healing.

4. Break down the competition metaphor.

We are constantly worried that we are not good enough and compete to make ourselves feel better. Let your children understand this phenomenon so that they can make different choices. Competition is always lose-lose in the end.

5. Acknowledge people.

Notice them, compliment them, or point out something positive.  We are quick to complain, then forget to compliment.  Change this around.

6. Ask questions.

Learn about people who you don’t know: people from different countries, different religions.  Understand what starts conflict and voice your ideas to companies and politicians.


promote peace on mother's day and always

My daughter, me, my mom, and my grandma. Mother’s Day 2011.

On the lighter side, here is a fun video for all you mom’s out there…


What are you doing this Mother’s Day to promote peace?


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Happy Mother’s Day Jodi!!!

I didn’t really know the history behind Mother’s day!
During war time, I used to always think of the victim’s mothers, always. I could NEVER rejoice with others to know the “enemy” had casualties too. It is so sad. War is so sad. Cruelty is so sad.

The subject of my thesis was a translation of the French book “Meme Les tueurs Ont une Mère” of Patrick Meney (“Even the Killers have Mothers”). That point has always been very special to me.
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Jodi Lobozzo Aman

I knew you’d get it! I think Mother’s day also started in Europe, but cannot remember that story…we need peace!


We need Peace.Isn’t it sad to have family in a country just few kilometers away in a country on our frontier, less than two hours by car, and not be allowed to visit them, or even call them on the phone?
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Very sweet post. My baby girl turns one on Tuesday the 24th. She is officially our last baby, and my heart pains at how big she is!She was born a month early and is now bggeir than our others were at her age! You have a very handsome little man there.

Jodi Lobozzo Aman

Thank you! Happy Mother’s Day!


Happy Mother’s Day, Jodi. What a beautiful photo of you and four generations of women. It must make you so proud. I believe in telling my children that I love them everyday and, happily, it’s been ingrained in them, as they’re always telling me they love me. It feels so good!
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Jodi Lobozzo Aman

You are soooo lovable Monica! I love you and never met you, I just can tell through your blog!

Laura Zera (@laurazera)

Love love love the generational family photo! And I also didn’t know the origins of Mother’s Day until your post.

Jodi Lobozzo Aman

Thanks, Laura, thinking of you this mother’s day since you’re so emerged in writing your next book!

Galen Pearl

Love that generational photo. My grandparents had all died before I was born. But I did have an aunt who was like a grandmother to me. My favorite photo shows her with her daughter, her granddaughter, her great granddaughter, and yes, her great great granddaughter! It is a priceless photo. Thanks for reminding me of her.
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Jodi Lobozzo Aman

You’re welcome, thank YOU! I love this photo, too. So precious. Thanks for commenting!


Happy Mama’s Day to you too, I hope you have the love you share comes back in buckets. I loved that line. break down the competition….wonderful way of expressing this behavior without it sounding negative. I thought that photo was a perfect value add to this post – all the women joining in on the celebration. Have a good one, Jodi.
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Jodi Lobozzo Aman

Thanks, Brenda, Happy Mother’s Day. You are a great mother!

Harleena [email protected] Writer

Wonderful post Jodi!

Just like everyone else, I loved the four generation photo – something which I also have though it’s not presently with me but my sister. 🙂

You raised a wonderful point of promoting peace, something that Mother Teresa started long back. And the simple steps you mentioned are things we can all do and start it right from home.

Thanks for sharing and wishing everyone a very Happy Mother’s Day! I think you are all doing a commendable job 🙂


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