Big Mistake #2: Thinking you are different
Do you think that you are different?
Yeah, me too.
Of course you are uniquely you in an awesome way. There is no one exactly like you in the world. You are special, and it is amazing that you are living this exact life this exact way right now in time. Amazing.
But sometimes feeling different doesn’t feel so good. “Different” can mean discluded.
You’d rather belong.
That is why Thinking that you are different the #2 most common mistake that keeps you suffering. (Check out the first video in this five part series: Setting Awesome Personal Boundaries)
For the people I talk to, this belief causes a great deal of suffering. It makes us compare ourselves. We think everybody is doing better than us.
This makes us focus on our deficits, and what we can’t do, and can zap away any of our energy to feel better.
You can argue that things are hard for you, or that you “can’t”, but then you’re giving power to those limits. On top of that a feeling of not being understood infiltrates your life. If you are different, then nobody understands. And this adds to the loneliness and isolation, causing more, and even more, suffering.
First of all: Have compassion for yourself!
Understand why you feel the way you do. It is only when you are not judging it, that you can do something different. (See the Map To Whole Peace free video series for how to do this!)
From 20 years as a secret keeper, I have heard confessions about what everybody is hiding. So, I have the inside scoop: You are NOT different.
We are all walking around with the same fears and insecurities as you. Some of us give it more attention than others. Some of us actively counter it. This is the difference and you have the power.
Watch my video, and I will explain.
You are not different. You belong.
Look for things that make you happy and do them.
Would you feel better if you realized you are not different than everybody?
Would your life be brighter If you belonged like everyone else? If people understood?
Everybody belongs. ~Richard Rohr
Challenge for today: What is one thing you DO, or CAN do, everyday to generate happiness in your life? Tell me in the comment section.
What am I going to commit to? I am going to watch one inspiring video a day. And I am going to work on daily practices to keep anxiety out of my life.