I am so sorry…
Chances are, if you’re reading this, then you have recently had your heart broken. ??
We have all been there and we know there is no pain like it. When faced with healing a broken heart we can start to say things to ourselves like:
Maybe if I’d been prettier, he would have stayed.
Perhaps if I hadn’t bugged her about those late nights, we wouldn’t have fought as much.
What if I’d been smarter, more affectionate, listened better…
on and on and on…
I think trying to figure out what went wrong is our way to distract us from the pain. Unfortunately it just makes it worse. You know these thoughts make you feel worse.
We don’t need to feel worse. The broken heart is bad enough!
The prospect of healing a broken heart can feel insurmountable. I mean, the hurt that you experience is visceral- your heart literally aches! When someone we love breaks up with us or leaves us, it feels like a rejection of who we are at our core. This can send us into a downward spiral– like the thoughts listed out above- where we question everything, especially our own self-worth.
Slow down. None of that is going to help. It’s perfectly normal to want to understand what happened and why when something ends, but to truly transcend the experience, we have to stop beating ourselves up.
In this video, I offer two things to think about when your heart has been broken. Watch now and get on the path to feeling better.
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You Will Get Through This
It will take some time but I promise you will overcome this. Healing a broken heart is a process. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if you have to! There is no set timeline. Be gentle with yourself and remember: You can do easy things to make yourself feel better.
Or get personal help! (from me!)
How many times have you picked yourself up after a fall? Be it losing a loved one, getting fired, flunking a course- whatever. You have gotten through and you have moved forward. This will not be any different. You simply have to be patient and kind with yourself. Take the good things from this relationship as memories and the not-so-good stuff as lessons.
And you will get through.
What small thing can you do today to start? Share with me.