Inarguably, OCD patterns are incredibly frustrating. They have the power to infiltrate everything. OCD can attack such a variety of our daily tasks.
OCD can have you…
avoiding certain surfaces in your home,
taking 5 hours at the grocery store,
thinking dark thoughts about your own death,
checking under the dryer ten times before bed,
worrying you left the door open,
checking if you ran over something with your car,
blinking 5×5 times,
swallowing many times,
spending hours cleaning,
putting on your pants 6 times,
washing your hands until they are raw,
stepping on something with your left foot if you stepped on it with your right foot,
turning on and off an engine for 20 minutes just to make sure,
rereading the same paragraph over and over,
having you confess something,
making sure your bed is made perfect, and much, much more.
[su_pullquote class=”p”]“…The human mind is a complicated place…We hold on to things, images, words, ideas, histories that we don’t even know we’re holding on to.” ― Corey Ann Haydu, OCD Love Story[/su_pullquote]
We joke a lot about OCD, calling ourselves this when we like things straight. However, in greater extremes this can really hold someone back in life. Not to mention, cause loads of dread, isolation, and suffering.
OCD is an anxiety.
One feels that if they don’t do these things, that “something bad” will happen. The dread of that bad thing is what characterizes it as a kind of Anxiety.
That “bad thing” ranges from being agitated by the OCD, to something bad happening to you or someone you love.
Nobody deserves to feel this way. But there is hope. OCD sometimes comes and goes in life. It detaches to things, and attaches to new things. It changes. For many, many people, it is a temporary problem. But if it is more extreme for you, you may benefit from the help of a clinician well versed in OCD.
Anyone can safely try these methods in this article and video.
Two ways to get rid of your OCD patterns today!
1. Discover your skills
Did you know this one interesting tidbit? OCD has the potential to affect every part of our life, and often a sufferer has more than one symptom, BUT, (and that’s a big BUT,) very infrequently does it affect everything.
OCD makes us crazy about some things and then leaves other things alone. It’s just weird like that.
For example, it makes someone touch all four corners of the window before he goes to bed, but it doesn’t mind that he left his dirty clothes on the floor. A woman has no problem going daily to her job in an elementary school, yet would never sit in the passenger seat of her car since it was “contaminated” 13 months ago when she sat in it on the way home from visiting someone in the hospital.
Do you wonder why the differentiation? It makes me very curious. And curiosity opens up a road to discovery!
This is what I want to figure out: If there is something we do to limit our OCD for some things- and there has to be because there is an infinite amount of things- lets get aware of what that is right now.
If we can figure out how we limit it from over-taking everything, we can limit it from over-taking anything.
If you are suffering from OCD,
make a list of what OCD doesn’t touch. I know you may not think of these things too much because you are so busy being frustrated by your OCD. But it’s time. What are you allowed to do? Write it down. Now. Then, figure out why you allow yourself this.
Is it because it is important to you? Because you haven’t thought about the dangers before? Is it because you really couldn’t live with more frustration? Get the answers and apply them to the OCD patterns that you do have.
2. Stop trying to get rid of it
Curious? Let me open that road to discovery for you. Watch this video for my BEST tip in getting rid of your OCD patterns.
OCD works in mysterious ways
So many people tell me that they have really dark fantasies.
I know they are thinking that they are the only ones who think these dark thoughts, but they are wrong. Take it from someone who hears people’s secrets for a living. Loads of people have fantasy flashes when they see a knife on the counter of cutting themselves, or imagine crashing into a tree when they drive down the road, or jumping in front of the subway at the station.
(Don’t tell me you haven’t had a thought like this ever in your life.)
It is so common that I don’t even think of these as pathological. It’s the meaning we make around these dark thoughts that is the problem.
Recently, I have been picturing myself with bloody fingers. My dark fantasies are about accidentally putting my hands in a blender or cutting them with the garden sheers, or the garbage disposal. I don’t mean fantasies as in I desire this, I am using the term to describe like a daydream state. I don’t conjure these in my consciousness, just notice them.
Noticing these horrible thoughts can be very disturbing.
And this disturbance is what causes the problem. The more you are disturbed by them, the more frequent they become. My bloody finger flashes happen frequently because I notice them and my mind has tagged them as weird, giving them my attention. If I thought I was crazy or this meant I wanted to hurt myself, I may really freak out and these OCD patterns can become monumental if I do that. I felt out of control. And, I may feel so shamed that I am this dark and not tell anyone, and never know other people think these things and it’s no big deal, and I would be suffering even further. See?
Have no fear for me! I have consciously decided to make these images inspire me to be more mindful and careful when I work with anything dangerous.
This is a much better place to stand than, “I am a sick freak.”
If you have ever been sad and wanted to escape in your life, this adds to the freak out factor. This is a correlation you are making. Our mind makes correlations. We are intellectual beings. However, the thoughts are related only because you think they are.
OCD thoughts are just thoughts
I have helped hundreds of people stop these dark thoughts by letting go of “this is horrible.” Once they don’t worry about them anymore, they tend to go away. Just like my bloody fingers image. It was short lived.
Thousands of thoughts go through our mind, good bad and ugly. It is only for a few of them that we have the time for our brain to go, “That’s weird.” This tagging pulls them out of the thousands of random thoughts right into our consciousness. It is totally understandable why horrible images would grab our attention. That is not weird. Of course, you’d be weird if they didn’t grab your attention. Stop judging them. Judgement just attaches you further!
Don’t take them seriously. Think they are silly weird and then distract yourself. When they come back, ever-so-briefly think, “Yep, still silly weird,” and distract yourself again. As long as you need to. Soon, they won’t come back.
Hope this helps!
Do you have anything that you do that you think is strange or crazy? What is it and why do you think it is crazy? Who told you that it was crazy?