This blog about the end of the tunnel came from a question from a woman on my Facebook Page about what you can do if you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.
My heart breaks for her.
This is a place of despair that nobody deserves, yet many find themselves there. pain, hopelessness, helplessness. I know exactly how she feels. You may have been there, too. It is not fair for anyone to feel so bad.
She typed,
Jodi, what do you do if there is no light at the end of the tunnel?
And I feel every crushing word, every desperate letter of it, like my heart was threatening to fade away.
In this video, I get serious because I want to make sure I get the message through: I hear you, and I understand. I feel horrible that you are suffering.
And there’s hope. Even in the darkest hopelessness. It’s there. Do you know how I know? Because things don’t stay the same.
Things change. And, if they can change, then, they can change in your favor, and you, you have a hand in what happens next. (More on that in my other videos. Here is one for helping a friend. From depression. And one saving someone from suicide.)
I know you are too tired to figure out what to do, so hold my hand and I can show you.
First, watch this video. Get Anxiety Help here.
What Do You Do If There is No Light at the End of the Tunnel
Finding the Light At The End of The Tunnel
1. Know that even if it seems like there is no light, even if you can’t see it or imagine it, it is there anyway.
2. Get out of your head. Do a creative project or help someone else.
3. Ask for some help, from a friend, a helping professional, your pet, or Spirit.
That’s the first steps for you. It may seem overwhelming to DO ANYTHING. But you have you. Do one little thing and use the energy that gives you to do the next little thing.
And get off that hamster wheel. #2! Get out of your head. There is nothing for you there. Just worries and negative self-judgment that takes you in circles. It wipes you out and you get nowhere. When you get off that hamster wheel, think of how much energy you will have to do things that can make you happier and relieved and bring a bit of peace into your day.
It’s time to take care of yourself. Stop Negative Thinking with Strategic Affirmations
What do you do if you don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel?
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Hello Jodi Aman. Your lessons are so amazing that I am recovering from anxiety with bullet speed. Still I have a problem that I feel numbness in my head sometimes. It occurs one or two times in a month. It started when I was in intense fear but it is still remaining. You’ll not believe, Mam, my fear has gone. If you ask me in percentage, 99% recovery has been done. Now I deliberately think about my past and I have a smile on my face, not the lines of fear. Thank you.
Please tell me about the feeling of numbness.
I can’t say for sure about the numbness but since it comes and goes, it seems to be an energy memory of the intense fear. This is just what the body does. You have to not worry about it and keep telling yourself you are safe and imagining you are safe and it may go away. Just don’t be scared of it!
thank you
You are welcome!
Thank you Jodi.
I don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. I see a long dark tunnel with few spots of light. The light at the end of the tunnel is not on earth. I’m in the darkest spot tonight and I want out
I know it is scary. Your genius mind is prone to overthinking which is multiplying the pain. If you can stay in the present and feel into Pat’s loving energy. Don’t try to feel better – This is causing more suffering because of the judgment and angst it brings.
Thank you Jodi. I never get emails for replies so I wouldn’t have known.
It is very scary and the scariest part is (now I realize as I’m going to say it) is the expectation I have to feel at least a bit better, but I am feeling worst day after day even though every day I say, today is so bad, it can’t get worse. It might be overthinking, I don’t know, I don’t feel I am doing it. It’s hard and scary not to try to feel better because I’m scared. I don’t want to disappoint Pat or you. I don’t have something to really hold on to.
You cannot disappoint Pat nor I. That is impossible. Forgot about judging how you are doing, and bad or worse and be in the present without judgment. It’ll help a bit. “This is how I feel today. I feel it all. I breathe in, I breathe out. It’s so painful. Yes. It is. This is how it feels today.” Your fear about it is feeding it more and it’s bad enough without that.
“You cannot disappoint Pat nor I”
I needed to read that again, and again. I breathe in an out. It is painful. I don’t judge how I am doing. But it’s not about judging, it’s about admitting and accepting and saying, I’m not coping. There are a lot of things adding up and I’m not coping anymore. And I’m drowning
It feels like you are drowning. Grief is so huge, especially for you because you feel everything so deeply. Take whatever you can off your plate. That’s what you need when you are grieving.
Back then in May, I thought it couldn’t get worse. Grief was overwhelming and unbearable. I was drowning in my grief, yes but I could somehow still function. Now, I lost it all, there is nothing left. Not only there is no light, there is no oxygen to breathe and no energy/will/motivation to do anything. The WORST part is that now that everytime I think/feel Pat I only see her turning her back on me, I’m even scared to go and be rejected there as I’m here