Understanding guilt didn’t come easy for me. It took me over a decade to see the role “thinking of myself as not good enough” played in my anxiety and panic. How bad I felt about myself also effected my relationships, my business, my family and my spirituality. It weighed me down so much I could barely move. I couldn’t trust myself. I didn’t like myself. This was a playground for feeling vulnerable.
Then, the having anxiety brought even more shame/guilt, which felt out of control, and increased the anxiety. I isolated myself because of this guilt, which made everything worse.
Guilt is awful, isn’t it? It’s like I was wearing the weight of all the things I’ve done wrong. (Or think of as I did wrong.) And mulling over all the reasons I’m not good enough, smart enough, cool enough… Evidence (created by my mind) seemed to be all over the place, but that’s because it had my attention. (Guilt is a beacon for attention. Just like anxiety.) They became the story I saw everything through.
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No one wants to feel this way and yet most of us are walking around and carrying all that heaviness with us. I’m here to take that bag of rocks right off your shoulders- where it doesn’t belong anyway. You see, understanding guilt is key to unpacking and unloading these negative feelings and experiences.
And in today’s episode, I’m going help you with understanding guilt and anxiety.
You’ll learn that guilt it intimately connected with anxiety. Not understanding guilt and its role in making and keeping you anxious is a huge mistake that keeps you thinking your anxiety is not curable.
Guilt is caused by anxiety and it causes anxiety
When we’re anxious, we’re often so caught up in ‘why’. Why is this happening? Why am I doing this to myself? Why do I always end up here? Guilt, guilt, guilt. Getting stuck in the ‘why’ keeps us distracted away from addressing and healing the issue.
Guilt is pervasive in our culture because we spend so much time comparing ourselves to others and when we do this, we always appear to fall short. So we conclude that we are inadequate.
This is baloney!
When we compare ourself to others, we compare without all of the information. We don’t see how bad everyone’s insecurities are inside their heads, we don’t see all of their failures and problems. They seem fine on the outside. (Just like to others, you seem fine on the outside.) Without all of the information, other people look like they have everything together, and we appear to pale in comparison.
Watch the video and read on to learn more.
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You Are Enough and You Can Trust Yourself
Anxiety lies. Its whole M.O. is to keep you in a tailspin of doubt and confusion. Understanding guilt about not being good enough feeds anxiety is wholly important in your healing process. Because if you realize that you don’t deserve the guilt, you can let the bag of rocks on your shoulders (the guilt) go. And relieve the stress that has wreaked havoc on your heart, body and mind.
Without the guilt, you can then trust yourself. And then the anxiety lies won’t have the same power they used to.
Yes, you CAN trust yourself. You have skills. And can handle things that come your way. You have made it this far because you are skillful and you are a survivor.
So take the next step. Decide you deserve to heal and to thrive!
What is keeping you guilty? Share with me.