Stop comparing yourself to others37 comments
I know you do it. But, I wish you would stop comparing yourself to others.
Here I am at the end of another weekend thinking about how I accomplished about a quarter of what I hoped to do. This frustration has the potential to take over my mind and fool me into thinking so many negative things about myself.
Everyone gets their stuff done but me.
It’s ridiculous when I say it out loud, but I’m a total victim of the voice when it is my head.
Why am I so busy comparing myself to others?
Am I OK?
Am I normal?
I wish I had a dime for everytime someone asks me these questions. So obviously, this is not just me thinking this. We just want to know where we fall in the pack because God forbid we are last.
Please don’t let me be last!
Watch my video to see what to do…
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
There is no normal.
So stop comparing yourself to “normal.” Since without a defined normal, you will always fall short.
Normal doesn’t exist. There is no universal normal, but thinking there is creates a “pseudo” normal, which is this high standard that nobody can clearly define (since it is not real) so that they just keep assuming it’s higher than themselves. Everyone fails in normal.
This is what I commit to:
Stop worrying. Let go of perfectionism. Perfectionism never helped anyone anyway. Perfectionism is pure guilt. It holds me still and doesn’t let me do anything (lest I don’t do it right). I don’t have time for that. I am too busy living.
Go with the flow! Self-doubt has a way of stopping me from doing what my heart wants to do. When I feel that heart tug, I dig in and don’t let any excuses get in my way. I only have to do one thing at a time.
Celebrate what I do and let that give me energy for the next step.
Enjoy the journey. Look around and connect with the people around me. I am not in a race. This world is a kaleidoscope of characters. I want to connect with as many hearts as I can. I’m fine. I am exactly where I am supposed to be right now. I can enjoy myself.
Lighten up. I can’t take myself so seriously. There will always be more to do. It really doesn’t matter what gets done as long as I make sure I make time for what is most important. People. Fun. Prayer. Laughter. Nature.
I can relax and enjoy the night with my family knowing that I did some good things this weekend. And even though I had to make choices, I am glad about the choices I made. How I did compared to everyone doesn’t matter.
I’m in the middle and I belong here.
What do you do when negativity and doubt try to tell you that you are behind the pack?
Jodi Aman / /