Understanding worry, fear, and anxiety problems and learning what to do about them.
“Don’t should on yourself!” Albert Ellis There are not many words as definitive as “should.” There is no wiggle room in “should.” It is simply something we think we (or someone else) ought to do without flexibility. “You should” or “I should” traps us like nothing else can, because, “If you don’t _____(name a should), […]
Need more help letting go? I had lots of feedback (online and offline) from the post Let It Go, Let It Go, Let It Goooo. I, as usual, have more thoughts on the subject. (Can’t keep me quiet.) Speaking is like letting go for me:) Some of you might have missed the comment thread so
Improving self worth is of utmost importance! Believing that you don’t deserve to heal is one of the biggest blocks to healing. And just going from undeserving to deserving is healing itself. I feel honored everyday that I get to witness my clients’ shift in their self worth, from unworthy to worthy; first in small
Almost every kid is bullied at one time or another. Though the severity is variable, the consequences of any degree of bullying can be major on a kid’s sense of self. When bullied, kids report feeling lonely, nervous, angry, and sad. They develop poor opinions of themselves, assuming the identities proffered by the bullies. Ugly. Fat.
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Often people come to me when they are distressed over conflict in a relationship. Through our conversation, it is not unusual to find out that they have a lot of fear. This fear stands in their way of forgiving their partner, opening up and trusting and, as such, usually increases conflict. Then, they beat themselves
Meditation in some form has been practiced all over the world for thousands of years. That is because the benefits of meditation. Whether it be prayer, mantras, art, singing, guided journeying, walking or even fishing. This might surprise some who picture monks sitting, legs crossed, on the floor in a trance all day. This image
The ability to make decisions seems to elude some people. They can’t just make a decision. This post is inspired by a conversation I had with a young man about his intense worry before, during and after making decisions. More specifically, he is worried about making the wrong decision. We looked closer at the decisions
Where were you on 911 ? On a home visit. That is where I was when I first knew what was happening on 9/11. My first job as a social worker was at Mt. Hope Family Center. Most of my day was spent visiting families in the community to provide education and support. The TV,