Understanding worry, fear, and anxiety problems and learning what to do about them.
So many people who are going through hell tell me that sometimes they feel like getting away from themselves. Escaping. “I wanted to run a way from myself, I felt so horrible,” a man recently told me. He thought he was crazy. I have felt this feeling on many occasions, and we probably all have. […]
When you allow yourself to feel, you allow yourself to heal… Many of us experience a situation like the loss of a friend or rejection of a lover and feel pain in our hearts. Panic sets in as we fear the painful feeling and what it might mean to our life. Soon, we begin to
Your surroundings affects you strongly. If you were living with someone who abused you or worked with someone who criticized you, for example, it would be difficult for you to be freely ourselves and find peace of mind in your space. Same goes for our physical surroundings, for example, stale air, minimal light, and clutter affect
Feel spaced out? Declutter your mind by decluttering your space Read More »
“Don’t should on yourself!” Albert Ellis There are not many words as definitive as “should.” There is no wiggle room in “should.” It is simply something we think we (or someone else) ought to do without flexibility. “You should” or “I should” traps us like nothing else can, because, “If you don’t _____(name a should),
Need more help letting go? I had lots of feedback (online and offline) from the post Let It Go, Let It Go, Let It Goooo. I, as usual, have more thoughts on the subject. (Can’t keep me quiet.) Speaking is like letting go for me:) Some of you might have missed the comment thread so
Improving self worth is of utmost importance! Believing that you don’t deserve to heal is one of the biggest blocks to healing. And just going from undeserving to deserving is healing itself. I feel honored everyday that I get to witness my clients’ shift in their self worth, from unworthy to worthy; first in small
Almost every kid is bullied at one time or another. Though the severity is variable, the consequences of any degree of bullying can be major on a kid’s sense of self. When bullied, kids report feeling lonely, nervous, angry, and sad. They develop poor opinions of themselves, assuming the identities proffered by the bullies. Ugly. Fat.
Bully-Shift! What to do if your kids are bullied! Read More »
Often people come to me when they are distressed over conflict in a relationship. Through our conversation, it is not unusual to find out that they have a lot of fear. This fear stands in their way of forgiving their partner, opening up and trusting and, as such, usually increases conflict. Then, they beat themselves