You know how people say there are only two emotions: love vs fear?
Well, when you have listened to people talk about their life as long as I have, this concept becomes clear.
Love vs Fear
Guilt, anxiety, worry, doubt, unworthiness, victim mentality, and shame: All fear.
Joy, peace, compassion, gratitude, kindness, generosity, trust, forgiveness, and connection: All love.
Love vs fear.
Gratitude is giving and feeling love, and we can only do this if fear isn’t blocking our way.
“Pssst…There’s nothing wrong with you.”
But fears are pervasive. They make us feel like we can’t handle something. They make us not trust ourselves, even though there is often great reason to trust ourselves. And I find the best practical thing to do to counter these fears is documentation.
Take out a good old fashioned piece of paper and write down your skills and knowledge (the reasons you can trust yourself). Then, read it several times a day.
See, fears make us forget what we know.
Forget that we can trust ourself. Forget what we appreciate about ourselves. They keep us from loving ourselves.
We mustn’t let them. Instead, we have to recognize our worth, our purpose, our skills, and what these say about what is important to us. If we look at our list several times a day, it will be harder to forget when the fears come. It will be on the “tip of our brain” and fears will no longer be able to trick us into thinking we are inadequate.
Here is an example list I made with someone last night. (* with permission to share with all of you.)
“This shall pass” was the top one cut off by the scanner.
She was remembering her identity outside the fears. We all have an identity outside our fears, where appreciation, commitments, love, responsibilities rule. Let’s find it.