On top of how much we judge ourselves, we also have a significant amount of worry about what this all means, how long is it going to last, how it will affect my life, and what will others think, etc. I invite you to consider the diagram in the previous blog entry. Worry Globs When […]
Some people look at others and assume all kinds of things about their lives. We assume people have better relationships than we do, easier times, less struggles. It is an incredible phenomenon how most people around us look as if they are more confident than we are. I wonder if it is more accurate to
This is the transcription from an interview with Self Doubt done during a presentation at the Women’s Health Expo in Rochester NY on November 7th, 2009. Personified Self Doubt, a tall character dressed all in black with penetrating eyes, began the exclusive interview with confidence. The reporter from WOMAN, Jodi, sat across and began the
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There was an article in the NY Times titled “For Some Parents, Shouting Is the New Spanking” on Oct 22, 2009. Following a link to the article that someone posted on our holistic mom’s e-list, a discussion ensued that sparked my attention. I sit with countless families every week, who are dismayed at their tendencies
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Goodbye Self Hate, Don’t Come Back! Below I give you an example of a powerful resistance letter. I received the idea from other therapists (namely, David Epston) and have been using it in my practice for some time. In the letter, the people are invited to first tell about the problem’s influence on their lives
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The news about vets/returning soldiers and suicide has really caught my attention in the last few months. This is primarily, because it is such a waste to lose them after families, friends, as well as the soldiers themselves, prayed so hard for their safe return from combat tours. I have also been interested in the
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This is a eulogy that I wrote for my grandmother, Caroline ‘Lily’ Lobozzo, died April 16, 2009. I included it in this blog since it talks about continuity of relationship after the death of a loved one and it bridges legacy and spirituality. Caroline ‘Lily’ Lobozzo Eulogy: Read May 23, 2009 There are so many
Narrative Therapy Lingo Post structuralism– The idea that meaning, knowledge and concepts are socially constructed and changeable. In the same way, the idea that there is no, one true reality, reality depends on the perceiver. In fact, this construction of meaning or perception of reality, can and does change all the time in every moment.