When you see these red flags in your relationships, they might be deal-breakers. When you’re in an unhealthy relationship with a selfish or narcissistic person, it can be damaging and take a long time to recover. It’s best not to get in them, or get out as fast as you can. The sooner that you get out, the shorter the recovery time!
This is the thing: Life is too short to spend it with someone who tears you down. You ought to surround yourself with people who lift you up. Keep reading and watch my video!
What is a red flag?
A red flag is a sign that you have to keep your eyes open to make sure this is not symbolic of a bigger problem. Some of these could be just a person who is distracted and momentarily self-absorbed, but most of them signify that the person is self-centered and doesn’t think about you too much. –Dealing with Difficult People Blog Post
Once you are attached to someone, you might be too close to the relationship to see it. A good rule is to always share with people what is happening, so they can be your eyes and ears. If you are uncomfortable sharing or your partner has isolated you, this itself is a red flag. Here is a good survey to see if your relationship is what you want it to be.
What is a narcissist?
Narcissists are people who are so absorbed with themselves, and what they need, that they don’t think about anyone else. There is no room for you in the relationship since it is all about them. PLUS. They do not see it. They actually feel like they are a victim of the world, all the while using power tactics to get control over everything around them. It may seem like they have overconfidence and they think they are great, but it is really an underlying lack of self-worth and anxiety that causes narcissism.
You want to learn how to set firm limits with people like this to save yourself a lot of hurt.
Here are 6 Red Flags that you should be on the lookout for!
~In my Teen Healthy Relationship Course, I teach 18! Keep your eyes open for these and if you are not sure, ask someone.
This is the thing: You have control over this. When you don’t feel good about yourself, you are not treating yourself very well, and then, you might let people in that don’t treat you very well. If you are strong in your self-worth, you won’t let these people in.
6 Red Flags to Keep in the Front of Your Mind
- Your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries. They criticize you and gaslight you when you set them. If they haven’t respected them up until now, odds are they will continue to bulldoze them.
- If you try to stand up a little bit, they gaslight you, essentially making you second guess yourself and feel like you were in the wrong, not them.
- Name-calling. This is immature, but that is not an excuse. Don’t put up with this.
- Everything is always about them. (No room for you, or your needs, or your friends, or your interests….)
- You catch them lying more than once. If someone is lying, they often keep lying.
- They make fun of you in public. This is never okay.
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