As usual, my children and my clients are my greatest teachers. As I was flitting around one morning, multitasking as usual, my daughter read me this poem about the zebra “Zebra Question” by Shel Silverstein I asked the zebra, Are you black with white stripes? Or white with black stripes? And the zebra asked me, […]
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My daughter, Lily, found a missing piece to our Trouble board game under the couch. Even though we had mere minutes to get her bag ready and make a mad dash to the school bus, it was important to her to put that piece back where it belonged. I supported her and appreciated the lesson
So many times people ask me, How can someone hurt me like that? They wonder how someone can act inconsistent with common values and/or social mores. They cannot reconcile in their heads how this can be, especially when they are talking about someone who hurt them. And, they could be talking about the soldiers in the
In this blog entry I wanted to share with you and except from the latest book I read. The book is called Message from Forever, a novel of aboriginal wisdom by Marlo Morgan. I highly recommend it. It was educational and inspiring. The portion I want to share is part of a dialogue an elder
This document came from a training group I taught that consisted of three male therapists learning skills in narrative therapy. To practice skills in creating community documents, we decided to create one of our own. Building on themes from the year long training process, the group decided to interview each other on how they learned
What’s guilt got to do with it? Everything and nothing. I remember reading long ago that there is but two emotions, love and fear. But I am left wondering where does guilt fall in the mix? (Though, I can guess where it falls, since it is not near “love”. But I’ll get back to that
I often employ a co-therapist during my sessions. There are many co-therapists that I work with, but none that are more available, none that I more frequently turn to than the one who ‘has all the answers.’ Yes, it is Google. I love Google. It staves off my faux pas, quenches my thirst for information,
The third obstacle to having positive thinking skills is feeling unworthy of good things happening. At times, I find this obstacle hard to escape myself. This is what I find myself thinking and believing: “Other people go through such hard times; I do not deserve to ask to get out of my suffering. They deserve
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