What is this whole mental resilience thing? Do I have it? Do I need it? Why or why not? How do you know you have it? And, can you cultivate it? If so, how do you do that?
Why do we need resilience? We see so so many people suffering in life every single day; friends, family, strangers around the world all dealing with not only the coronavirus pandemic, but blatant racism, back-to-school pressures, isolation, and so many more that it just becomes overwhelming. We need to find our empowered problem solver within.
Are you overwhelmed by what is going on in the world? If you are a sensitive soul, you’re probably raising your hand right now. This overwhelm might trick you into thinking that you are weak, and lack resilience because you are feeling all the feels. And, they feel pretty darn huge.
In this blog and video, I will show you how being sensitive means you are open and evolved, and primed for a more robust mental resilience than people who look they are not even affected by current events. I’ll help you see the difference between resilience, and denial.
This is it: One lives by compassion and empowerment, and the other by fear and power-struggle.
Building Mental Resilience with Compassion
When you’re an empathic person, you feel all of your feelings. You might take in not only your own energy, but the energy of the people and world around you every day. With all of this negativity in our world, sensitive people can feel like crap. This may seem like a curse, or that there’s something wrong with us. But nothing is wrong with you, in fact, it means you have abilities, that if honed can actually make you feel better and have you help those around you feel better. We’ll get to that in a sec.
When you can’t be compassion for others, fear reigns. Compassion helps you decide to take action to make a contribution or help others. This action builds empowerment and hardiness, rather than victimhood. You feel a sense of belonging, and not so alone.
Without compassion, your victimhood stares you in your face. You feel trapped in it and helpless which incites fear and makes people want to grab their power back, even if it is over other people. This causes conflict and division in our families and communities.
Many sensitive people are caught between having compassion for others yet not for themselves. But this is not why you feel so badly, it is because you feel so badly. Let’s fix that shall we?
How to build robust mental resilience
Also, on a recent weekly Live Coaching Session (that I give EVERY Monday at 11 am E on my Facebook page) covered this very topic: What does Emotional Resilience Look Like?
Resilience helps us to bounce back, to keep going, to keep trying even in the face of constant adversity and confusion. We still feel, but you can stop, multiplying we don’t internalize to the point of becoming a detriment to our own well being.
Remember, resilience helps you keep going, to get back up when you get knocked down, and to not beat yourself up for what you feel or don’t feel. It allows you to be your true, authentic, wonderful self even in the face of so much upheaval and change in the world around you.
How to Build Mental Resilience
- Have self-compassion and don’t judge yourself.
Mental resiliency gives us the strength and energy to find motivation to keep going and keep trying even in the face of constant adversity and confusion. You still feel, but when you add self-compassion in it is exponentially less, because you feel are softer with yourself.
2. Create a life within the limits.
There are restrictions and you can see all of them and feel like a victim of them, trapped and out of control. Or, you can remember there has always been restrictions and limits in this life, you have full agency to use your power within them instead of lamenting them and you will feel so much better. Look at what you can control and focus there.
3. Embrace your empowered problem-solver self.
You have evolved to solve problems. Seeing yourself as able instead of unable will help you be kinder, more loving, more understanding and also, feel better.
4. Get these things now.
Routine, with work, play, exercise, eating and sleep. Make sure your day has meaning: a strong sense of purpose. Engage in novelty weekly to stimulate your brain and bring vitality in. And, definitely continue to build and burnish your community.
Hope you add my Live coaching calls to your calendar! Mondays 11 am E. Right here. Like/follow my page and hit the bell to be notified! Bring your questions and pondering about your life, relationships and career. If you feel “gotten” by this post and video, I’m here for you, consider a deep-dive psychospiritual healing with me.