Need more help letting go? I had lots of feedback (online and offline) from the post Let It Go, Let It Go, Let It Goooo. I, as usual, have more thoughts on the subject. (Can’t keep me quiet.) Speaking is like letting go for me:) Some of you might have missed the comment thread so […]
I won! I won! Someone noticed me! It is one of our deepest desires to be noticed. Whoo Hoo! Mama Wolfe from mamawolfe noticed me and my lil ole blog and gave me this cool About Me award. Really cool, except, wait…there’s a catch. I have to tell 7 things about me. Perhaps if you
Often people come to me when they are distressed over conflict in a relationship. Through our conversation, it is not unusual to find out that they have a lot of fear. This fear stands in their way of forgiving their partner, opening up and trusting and, as such, usually increases conflict. Then, they beat themselves
Some people look at others and assume all kinds of things about their lives. We assume people have better relationships than we do, easier times, less struggles. It is an incredible phenomenon how most people around us look as if they are more confident than we are. I wonder if it is more accurate to
This is the transcription from an interview with Self Doubt done during a presentation at the Women’s Health Expo in Rochester NY on November 7th, 2009. Personified Self Doubt, a tall character dressed all in black with penetrating eyes, began the exclusive interview with confidence. The reporter from WOMAN, Jodi, sat across and began the
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There was an article in the NY Times titled “For Some Parents, Shouting Is the New Spanking” on Oct 22, 2009. Following a link to the article that someone posted on our holistic mom’s e-list, a discussion ensued that sparked my attention. I sit with countless families every week, who are dismayed at their tendencies
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Goodbye Self Hate, Don’t Come Back! Below I give you an example of a powerful resistance letter. I received the idea from other therapists (namely, David Epston) and have been using it in my practice for some time. In the letter, the people are invited to first tell about the problem’s influence on their lives
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The news about vets/returning soldiers and suicide has really caught my attention in the last few months. This is primarily, because it is such a waste to lose them after families, friends, as well as the soldiers themselves, prayed so hard for their safe return from combat tours. I have also been interested in the
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