That dang inner critic! Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! You can’t do this. You can’t do that. They’re not going to like you. Nobody likes when you do… You’re annoying. You don’t know how to. It’s too hard. It’s going to be overwhelming. You can’t handle it. Lies. All lies. You are not what your mind says that you […]
Holding on and letting go. When I was in college, I had an important decision to make about a long-term relationship. One day, I was talking to my peace and justice professor about my plans after graduation and mentioned I was trying to decide whether to follow the relationship, or follow my lifelong dream of
It is our desire to heal ourselves of our pain and problems, but it seems so complex, doesn’t it? Are you struggling with PTSD, anxiety or depression? This breaks my heart. I see so many people wish they can end their struggle with emotional pain and difficult relationships. They don’t get why they still feel
Have compassion Let Go of Anger There are many reasons we don’t want to feel anger, but it usually leads back to shame and fear. For a woman that consulted me, it was both. She felt anger-shame since from a young age she learned that she was “not allowed to be angry.” This turned into a
Mistake #5: You judge yourself I can talk about this day in and day out, and still most people who come to see me in counseling have a problem with this. Some of them don’t even know they are doing it, but it is affecting them big time! Through regular conversations with friends, family, and
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I know you do it. But, I wish you would stop comparing yourself to others. Here I am at the end of another weekend thinking about how I accomplished about a quarter of what I hoped to do. This frustration has the potential to take over my mind and fool me into thinking so many negative things
This saves lives. Believe me. Especially yours. Do this: Love people up instead of worrying down. We are human. And we love people. When we see people suffering, it triggers our mirror neurons to feel that suffering, too. There is something to be said about solidarity. Standing with others in their pain helps them not feel
When you allow yourself to feel, you allow yourself to heal… Many of us experience a situation like the loss of a friend or rejection of a lover and feel pain in our hearts. Panic sets in as we fear the painful feeling and what it might mean to our life. Soon, we begin to